John F. Kennedy Liberal Democrat

John F. Kennedy Liberal Democrat
Source: U.S. Senator John F. Kennedy in 1960

Tuesday, July 16, 2019

CSM: Stephen Humphries- 'How To Save Politically Mixed Marriages in The Donald Trump Era'

Source:CSM- Author Jeanne Safer: with a book about politically mixed marriages in the Trump era
"Psychotherapist Jeanne Safer has parlayed her own experiences and those that have been shared with her into a book I love you, but I hate your politics: How To Protect Your Intimate Relationships in a Poisonous Partisan World."

Read the rest ( if you can ) at CSM

Source:TYT: Cenk Uygur & Anna Kasparian- 'Americans Unwilling To Marry Outside Their Politics'- Different race, ethnicity, religion, culture, no problems! But marrying someone from different politics, that's a whole new issue.
"A very low percentage of Americans are married to spouses that have opposing political views from then. The number of interracial couples may soon exceed those with differing politics. Cenk Uygur and Ana Kasparian, hosts of The Young Turks, break it down. Tell us what you think in the comment section below.

“Would you believe us if we said you're about as likely to marry someone of a different race as you are someone from the other political party?

Buried inside a new Pew Research Center survey on political polarization is this nugget: Americans say they are overwhelmingly married to people with whom they agree politically. In fact, just 9 percent of Republicans and 8 percent of Democrats say their spouse or partner is a member of the other major political party.

By contrast, Pew estimated in 2015 that 6.3 percent of Americans in 2013 were married to a spouse of a different race. But that number is climbing. It was less than 1 percent in 1970, but about 1 in 8 marriages in 2013 (12 percent) were interracial.

Bipartisan marriages still far outnumber gay marriages -- another fast-increasing kind of marriage, thanks to its nationwide legalization in 2015. Gallup data suggests about 1 million American adults are married to a spouse of the same gender; but that's still less than half a percentage point of the entire U.S. adult population.”

I'm not one of these doom and gloomers who think America is going to hell and as a result we're about to seem some new civil war in this country, but whenever I see stories that Americans aren't even willing to be friends with other people, because they either support President Donald Trump's nationalist philosophy or don't, that leads me to believe that maybe America is in danger of it's first civil war, at least since the 1960s, if not since the 1860s with the American Civil War.

I guess all of this would be easy for me to say, because I can  be completely philosophical and theoretical as someone who is not married. So taking my advice on this, might be lack asking your plumber for a medical opinion about cancer or whatever the disease or medical condition that you want to learn about. But if successful marriages has anything to do with commonsense, ( and considering 1/2 American marriages end in divorce, that would suggest no ) I believe there are some commonsense suggestions that could help people who are married to someone who is pro-Trump or not, when you're on the other side of that issue.

Suggestion one: don't discuss politics that relates to Donald Trump at all, at least in a serious way. If there's anything that both spouses agree on when it comes to Donald Trump where one spouse hates everything about him, but the other spouse likes PresidentTrump's economic polices, but hate his tone, rhetoric, character, ( which is common with Trump supporters on CNN ) then maybe talk about what you both don't like about the President. And if there's anything that you both like about him, maybe you both find him to be funny and entertaining and neither one is a fan of political correctness, then concentrate on that.

Suggestion two which goes back to suggestion one: don't talk about politics at all, or at the very least don't make it personal and instead listen to each other and find out why your spouse believes what they believe. You probably still won't agree with your spouse, but maybe you can at least understand why your spouse believes what they believe. And don't make your political discussions personal, but instead intellectual and factual. But the better idea is to not talk about divisive politics at all and instead remember what you love about your spouse and why you married your spouse in the first place. ( Like your spouse's money, body, business connections, or perhaps other reasons )

Again, as someone who has never even been married, ( knock on wood: maybe there is a God ) I think some of my suggestions sound like a local auto mechanic giving a lecture about brain surgery, ( what the hell does that guy know: if I ever want his opinion on anything, it will be about cars ) but if marriage has anything to do with life and successful life, then successful marriages are about commonsense.

For people who aren't hardcore political junkies ( meaning they actually have lives ) getting through the Trump presidency even if your spouse disagrees with you on President Trump should be relatively easy.

But for people who don't have lives outside of politics, I suggest you find that life outside of politics and remember that FNC, MSNBC, and CNN aren't the only TV channels and you can do other things together and concentrate on what you have in common and why you're married to that person in the first place. 

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